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The Black Girl's Guide to Healing Emotional Wounds
​(Nvision Solutions)
© Nijiama Smalls

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"How many times have you heard a black girl say, “I don’t trust women,” “I don’t get along with other women,” “I hate my boss” (well that’s one that we all say); or what about “I won’t let anyone get over on me,” “I don’t like working for a black woman,” or “all men are dogs”? Perhaps you have even said these things yourself, Lord knows I have. These thoughts come from a person that has become jaded by an unhealed wound. Wounds change our perception and cause us to needlessly suffer. I often say that by the time a person is thirty years old, they have experienced at least one major break up, friendship betrayal, personal or professional setback, rejection, or transition. Depending on the meaning that we assign to these situations, they can cause us to become emotionally ill; anything that triggers that hurt can cause us to react negatively. We need to end the suffering and get out of our own way so that we can continue to develop meaningful relationships across the board, the most important relationship being the one we have with ourselves." ~ Nijiama Smalls
Nijiama introduces the reader to women she knows to provide examples of real-life situations. The objective of this book is healing and unity. She believes it's important for Black women to view each other as sisters, instead of competitors, and to be inclusive, instead of part of a clique. A partial example is excerpted below:
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Nijiama helps readers dig into emotional wounds that may be stopping them from living their best lives.

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Author of The Black Girl’s Guide to Healing Emotional Wounds series, Nijiama Smalls is a writer, emotional coach and speaker. She has written for local, national and global publications and has spoken on numerous platforms on the topics of healing emotional wounds, emotional intelligence, self-love, and destroying generational patterns.

The wife of Pastor Shamon Smalls, Nijiama Smalls is a mother of two and a southern bell. A native of Rock Hill, South Carolina and current resident of Northern Virginia, she has spent many years working as a career counselor in Washington, D.C., serving inner city youth and adults. She has spent years in various leadership roles in Corporate America and served as an adjunct faculty member at two local post-secondary educational institutions.  
Nijiama studied at Fayetteville State University, earned a B.A. from Winthrop University, and later a M.S. She is a certified life coach and holds certifications in Emotional Intelligence, Trauma Informed Care, Mindfulness Mediation, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
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She enjoys sharing her wisdom with women and leaders on their journey towards healing and managing their emotions. Nijiama is the president and founder of the Prince William County Chapter of Mocha Moms Inc., empowering women of color to be the best moms they can be while encouraging them to maintain work-life balance. She also serves as the leader of the Family Life Ministry at Zion Church Woodridge.

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