MYRNA'S MUSINGS...
A Snapshot of Events, Travels and Reflections
Posted by Myrna Haskell, Executive Editor
Find out where I've been as I explore galleries, attend events, and meet with authors, humanitarians, artists, educators and community leaders. Meeting these incredible women in person and learning about their journeys is what drives me to move forward with SANCTUARY! My personal travel experiences are also included.
May 26, 2023
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Fred Thomas (left), Kaori Kiki Nakajima (center), Tyrone Cox (right)
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Marboro, New York:
On Friday, May 26, I had the opportunity to see an incredible performance by Fred Thomas of the J.B.'s at The Falcon in Marlboro, NY. Standout tenor sax player Kaori Kiki Nakajima played mind-blowing solos. The entire group was impressive, also including Tyrone Cox (vocals and trumpet), Tommy Greene (drums), Jimmy Hill (organ), and Gabriel Caplan (guitar). Fred Thomas, a longtime bass player for James Brown, was fronting the band (lead vocals and bass guitar). Each and every member played their hearts out. One of the best live performances I've seen in a while. The group had the crowd stomping, dancing and singing along. This was the best of soul, funk and blues! Myrna will be in touch with Kaori Kiki - possible future feature? Stay tuned.... |
May 9, 2023
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NAWA's Annual Business Meeting & Luncheon
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New York, NY:
On Tuesday, May 9, I attended the Annual NAWA Business Meeting & Luncheon at The National Arts Club in Manhattan. It was a wonderful event with delicious food and the opportunity to connect with artist members and others in attendance. The camaraderie in the room was contagious. Keynote speaker was Meredith Bergmann, an American sculptor, poet and essayist. Her public sculpture "Women's Rights Pioneer Monument"* in Manhattan's Central Park, which was installed on August 6, 2020, has been the talk of the town since its installation. It celebrates three historical suffragists: Sojourner Truth, Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton. She discussed the making of this iconic monument and several other works. Founded in 1889, NAWA is the first women's fine arts organization in the United States. I am proud to support the organization as a member of its Board of Directors. *If visiting New York City, don't miss a chance to see this incredible monument. The sculpture is located at the northwest corner of Literary Walk along The Mall. |
February 2023
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APSB Performs at The Falcon
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Marlboro, NY:
I attended the "Birthday Extravaganza" for Alexis P. Suter at The Falcon in Marlboro, New York last night. What an incredible performance, including guest appearances and jams with former band members. The Alexis P Suter Band (APSB) played some of their popular tunes, including "Dog Eat Dog World" from their Be Love album. Ray Grappone and Lee Falco presented Alexis with an enormous cake which was later shared with the entire audience. Alexis P. Suter was the September 2019 featured artist in Sanctuary. She is a three-time Blues Music Awards nominee who continues to mesmerize audiences with her booming baritone voice and emotional performances. Alexis plays with an incredibly talented group of band members, including Vicki Bell (vocals and co-founder of Hipbone Records), Ray Grappone (drums and co-founder of Hipbone Records) and Michael Louis (guitar) who produced their latest album Be Love. Stay tuned because the band is back in the studio working on new music! Find out more from the APSB website. |
November 2022
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Caribbean ~ Haiti and Dominican Republic:
My husband, Kirk, and I took a cruise to the Caribbean with my parents for a fall respite. It's November, so there isn't much of a chance of a hurricane striking...right? No such luck. A Cat 1 hurricane was headed for the Bahamas (our initial destination) and Florida's East Coast. So, our captain changed direction, heading further southeast to skirt the storm and avoid the brunt of it. We wound up in Haiti and then the Dominican Republic. This was just fine. We had been to the Bahamas in the past, and we really just wanted to spend time together - relaxing, sipping piña coladas by the pool, and shopping ashore. We spotted some gorgeous birds (parrots and white cockatoos) in the Domincan Republic. The weather was very hot and the locals were super friendly and kind. This was my third getaway this year, and being far away from my office and piled up chores truly helped to clear my mind. Now that we're back home, I'm catching up - working diligently on Sanctuary as well as preparing my home for the winter months. |
October 21, 2022
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New York, NY:
Planning for 2023: We're looking ahead to next year and some fabulous, upcoming content. It was a sunny and crisp day in New York City, when Sandra (Culture & Travel Editor), Carol (Co-Associate Editor) and I met at Cafe D'Alsace, a quaint French bistro on 2nd Ave. between 88th and 89th, for a delicious lunch and to batten down some features and new sections for '23. The attentive staff allowed us to linger over coffee as our meeting lasted almost to the dinner hour. This photo was taken after sharing a delicious, creamy cheesecake to top off lunch. Stay tuned for all that is SANCTUARY in 2023! |
October 20, 2022
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New York, NY:
On October 20, I attended the opening reception of NAWA’s 133rd Annual Members Exhibition at One Art Space in Manhattan’s Tribeca neighborhood. It was wonderful to see so many artist friends and to celebrate this incredible show with them. The National Association of Women Artists has been supporting and promoting women artists since 1889, and I am proud to be a part of it as a member of the Board of Directors. What an incredible display of talent! With hundreds of diverse works on display, this show runs through October 29th. Don’t miss it! Unable to attend the exhibition in person? Find the works online at NAWA. |
October 16, 2022
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Rhinebeck, NY:
I attended a performance of Sondheim on Sondheim at The Center for Performing Arts at Rhinebeck today. Who is the late Stephen Sondheim? One of the most important composers and lyricists of the 20th century! Think "Send in the Clowns." The musical exceeded my expectations. The cast included a truly talented group of individuals, and the video clips of past interviews with Sondheim were enlightening. His personal journey, insights on process, humor, and surprising inspirations were blended well with the performances - even "interactions" - with the cast! I highly recommend. One more chance to grab tickets for this upcoming weekend. TICKETS Need a spot for lunch or dinner? Check out Gigi Trattoria. |
October 15, 2022
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Kingston, NY:
I dropped by the opening reception of "Men Argue, Nature Acts," the current exhibition at Pinkwater Gallery on North Front Street in Kingston, NY. Pinkwater is a gallery dedicated to showing women artists, specifically those living and working in the Hudson Valley region of New York and the Catskills. It was a well-attended event, and I had the pleasure of speaking with Anne Sanger, artist and owner. (See Anne's photo with her piece "Save the Robots, 2022," a 36 x 36 inch oil in the show.) The back of the gallery was open to a quaint outdoor space which is used when weather permits. This exhibition is open to the public through November 27th. Don't miss the opportunity to stop by if you're in the area. Find out more about the gallery from Sandra Bertrand's exclusive interview with Anne in Sanctuary's Culture Crawl section. |
September 25, 2022
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Marlboro, NY:
On Sunday, September 25th, I saw Camille Thurman perform "live" at the Falcon. She is incredibly talented, both as a saxophonist and vocalist. Her rapport with both her bandmates and the audience was terrific. It was a night filled with inspiration and incredible musicianship.
Camille (tenor sax and vocals) was accompanied by Duane Eubanks (trumpet), Bruce Edwards (guitar), Tom DiCarlo (bass) and, her husband, Darrell Green (drums). More about Camille: She toured internationally for two seasons with the world-renowned Jazz At Lincoln Center with Wynton Marsalis as a saxophonist, becoming the first woman in 30 years to tour and perform full time (2018-2020). Thurman is on the road leading her band, The Camille Thurman Quartet. She is also a featured artist with the Darrell Green Trio, where she has performed at the Kennedy Center, Alice Tully Hall, and numerous respected international jazz festivals and venues. Stay tuned for more about his gifted performer. More about Camille Thurman. |
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September 20, 2022
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Poughkeepsie, NY
WOMEN IN BUSINESS – A CELEBRATION: I attended the Women’s Professional Network’s (WPN’s) 7th Anniversary Celebration on Tuesday, September 20 at Farmer’s & Chefs in Poughkeepsie, NY. Keynote speaker, Julie Ciardi, a former IBM executive, now helps women in business to create the life and career they imagine, to become unstuck, and to find their true purpose. During her BEcoming Her presentation, she shared, “You have the power to design your life.” Lea Bishop, founder of WPN, shared some thoughts about the organization’s last seven years and how important it is that women in business help and support one another. I also ran into Sanctuary sponsor Marisa Moeller, Senator Sue Serino, and several other businesswomen, some whom I hadn't seen in quite a while. Wishing WPN continued success! |
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September 18, 2022
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Salt Point, NY:
SANCTUARY ANNUAL LUNCHEON: On Sunday, September 18, team members, sponsors, supporters and their guests gathered for our annual luncheon in Salt Point. This is my way of thanking everyone who supports our mission. It is also a wonderful way to get to know one another. Special thanks goes out to Laura Pensiero, chef/owner of Gigi Trattoria in Rhinebeck, NY, and Fireside Barbecue & Grill (our neighborhood restaurant) for providing the delicious food! A big thank you also goes out to John, our enthusiastic, volunteer bartender, and Tegan, who is always there to lend a hand. T'Alyne (former featured artist in Sanctuary and owner of a fabulous off-grid Airbnb) and her husband, Harry, made it all the way from Colorado to be here with us! And, of course, a huge thank you to Kirk Haskell, the most supportive husband a gal could ask for! Our "Movie Night" team game was tons of fun and several attendees shared delicious desserts to cap off the afternoon. Each and every one of you is cherished for all that you do to help promote this special publication. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. |
September 8, 2022
Myrna & Chris
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
OUT AND ABOUT: I met up with Sanctuary sponsor Chris Vogg, Arbonne Independent Consultant, to catch up and discuss some tips she'll be sharing with readers later this fall regarding skin care. Please stay tuned for that. We had a wonderful dinner at Zeus and talked about how we can continue to support one another. Our sponsors are an integral part of our community! They are all inspirational and giving. We are proud to have each and every one of them at our side as we continue to celebrate women everywhere. Find out more about our sponsors from our "Meet Our Sponsors" page. |
August 15 & 16, 2022
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Bermuda:
My husband and I cruised to Bermuda for the second time (it had been a while - circa 2008) and quickly remembered this beautiful island as we approached. Our cruise ship docked at Kings Wharf, a pier in Royal Naval Dockyard, the principal base of the Royal Navy in the Western Atlantic from shortly after the American Revolution to the early years of the Cold War (1951). As we arrived, the island's signature white roofs were on display. Made of limestone, these roofs are heavy and not easily shifted by hurricanes. Despite being a tropical paradise, Bermuda has no real source of fresh water, such as rivers or lakes. Once rainwater hits the limestone roof, the water is then funneled into underground cisterns that serve as islanders' primary source of freshwater. Then, there's the snorkeling. Wow! We had forgotten how wonderful it is here. We sailed via catamaran to a secluded spot where vibrant coral reefs housed unusual fish and a resident octopus. We didn't spot the octopus, but the beauty of the reef and its other inhabitants kept us entranced. We chatted with new friends as we enjoyed rum swizzles, Bermuda's "national drink," on the return trip to the pier. Some shopping in the small port town capped off the day's adventure. |
July 28, 2022
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Virtual Interview: Susan Diamond's Herfinance Talk Podcast:
I had the pleasure to appear as a guest on Susan Diamond's Herfinance Talk podcast. Sue is a Certified Financial Social Worker, author, speaker, and CEO of Herfinance Club. Topics included my personal "money story," the inspiration behind founding Sanctuary magazine, challenges I've faced as a business owner, women and a collaborative work mindset, and how Sanctuary helps to support women. It was an informative and delightful conversation. Thank you, Sue! Readers can find Episode 19 of Sanctuary's Coffee & Conversation when roles were reversed, and Sue was my guest. The topic: What Keeps Women Financially Stuck? |
July 24, 2022
Museum Entrance
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Annandale-On-Hudson, NY:
My husband, Kirk, and I checked out the latest exhibitions at the Hessel Museum at Bard College with Joanna Frang and her husband, Mark. It was an enjoyable afternoon with a lot to contemplate! Please allow for at least two hours to visit all three exhibitions. There's a lot to see.
The exhibitions: Black Melancholia (through October 16) presents the works of 28 artists of African descent – a variety of mediums and perspectives. Martine Syms: Grio College (through November 27) displays the artist's work from 2017 to 2022 and is a statement on how digital media shapes our culture. Dara Birnbaum: Reaction (through November 27) is a lot to take in. The installation of this exhibition was truly remarkable – from sexism to state-sponsored violence, it's one you will be talking about well into your post-exhibition plans, whether that be dining, hiking or a visit to one of the many wineries in the surrounding area. For those who would like a deep dive, plan a guided tour. |
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July 16, 2022
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Millbrook Winery Jazz Concert Series |
Millbrook, NY:
What a pleasure it was to listen to 2022 Grammy nominee Richard Baratta (drums) perform with his band The 3B’s + 2 at the Millbrook Winery last night. It was a beautiful night for an outdoor performance up on the hill. Baratta was accompanied by Paul Bollenback (guitar), Pat Bianchi (organ), Eric Alexander (saxophone) and Paul Rossman (percussion). The group wowed the audience, playing a diverse set of jazz, blues and a modern twist on songs such as Stevie Wonder's "Bird of Beauty" (1974) as well as a terrific piece titled "Enough is Enough" - which Baratta described as a "neutral political tune [that's relatable] no matter what side you're on." It was so much fun meeting up with Jill Baratta, Richard's wife, who also happens to be a fantastic artist and executive director of NAWA. Penny Dell, mixed media artist, community advocate and fellow board member of NAWA, was also in attendance and took the time to catch up with us. We later ran into Jacob Euell, tasting room manager, who commented, "They were really good!" Summer fun: great music, great wine, great friends, great weather! |
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July 7, 2022
"I’ve always believed that the meaning of our life is to find our purpose. This COGAP program has defined a purpose for me. The art I’ve donated is like my legacy. It really has a strong emotional hold on me." ~ Karen Loew
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New York, NY:
On July 7, I attended the 2022 COGAP Reception & Acceptance Ceremony at the Salmagundi Club in New York City. After interviewing Karen Loew earlier this year, I was excited and honored to attend this incredible program and to chat with and learn more about the artists who donate their work, providing visual testimony to the unique contribution the U.S. Coast Guard makes to the nation in its multifaceted roles as a military, humanitarian and law enforcement organization. It was also a pleasure to meet Mary Ann Bader, COGAP coordinator at the headquarters in Washington D.C. Prior to the ceremony, attendees chose from an array of delicious foods and beverages, listened to music by Musician Chief Megan Sesma on harp and Musician First Class Meera Gudipati on flute, and browsed the inspiring artwork in the Skylight Gallery. Readers may also find my April '22 in-depth interview with Salmagundi COGAP Committee Chair, Karen Loew, to learn more about the program's history. This exhibition is free and open to the public through July 15. M - F ~ 1:00 p.m. to 6:00 p.m. Sat. and Sun. ~ 1:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. |
July 3, 2022
Becca Stevens and The Secret Trio
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Marlboro, NY:
Always love checking out talent at The Falcon, a wonderful music venue in Marlboro, NY. 2021 Grammy-nominated Becca Stevens played with The Secret Trio whom she discovered at the GroundUP Music Festival a few years back. The Secret Trio is made up of an oudist, kanunist and clarinetist. The mix of Becca's jazz, indie-rock, and Appalachian folk music style with these Middle Eastern sounds and dance beats of the Balkans was truly inspiring - something different from anything I've heard. Find out more about Becca's music at: Becca Stevens. |
June 2022
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Jackson, NH and White Mountain National Forest:
What a respite! This area of New Hampshire is definitely a place to find sanctuary! My husband and I explored White Mountain National Forest earlier this month. We were captivated by the gorgeous waterfalls, incredible hikes and breathtaking beauty of this part of the state. I've shared a short video montage which is also available from our YouTube channel. Recommendations: The Wentworth - an historic inn in Jackson, NH. Private hot tub, delicious breakfast and dinner menus, and access to Jackson Falls and several great eateries. Favorite Restaurant: Thompson House Eatery, a true farm-to-table establishment which was walking distance from the inn. Chef Jeff was selected as a semifinalist for Best Chef of the Northeast by the James Beard Foundation. |
May 21, 2022
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Millbrook, NY:
What a joy it was to spend time with Pennie Brantley and Bob Morgan at the Millbrook Winery and elsewhere in Dutchess County on Saturday. These two former, featured Sanctuary artists continue to do amazing things. Both Pennie and Bob have had work selected in several solo and group exhibitions since their appearance in Sanctuary. They continue to paint prolifically and travel whenever the opportunity arises. Shortly after she was featured in Sanctuary, Pennie received the Women in the Arts Recognition Award from The National Society of the Daughters of the American Revolution, American Heritage Committee. I admire their beautiful and ambitious large-scale work. They also happen to be incredible humans. Find out more about Pennie and Bob from their websites: Pennie Brantley Bob Morgan |
May 15 and May 19, 2022
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Two Venues....Two Artists...To Be Continued...
Marlboro, NY: I had the opportunity to see Samara Joy, winner of the 2019 Sarah Vaughan International Jazz Vocal Competition, perform at The Falcon on Sunday, May 15. She is a gifted, emerging artist who will be featured in our upcoming August issue. Her first album is being released this summer. Pawling NY: Danielle Nicole, Grammy nominee and Blues Music Awards winner for Contemporary Female Artist, captivated the audience at Daryl's House on Thursday, May 19. How exciting it was to see these two incredible ladies perform. Stay tuned for their features. |
May 10, 2022
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Please note:
Readers can find more about the following women mentioned in this post via past articles published in Sanctuary: Susan Hammond Penny Dell T'Alyne |
Manhattan:
Yesterday, I attended the National Association of Women Artists' (NAWA's) Annual Business Meeting & Luncheon held at the National Arts Club, where the organization's office is now located. What a pleasure it was to spend time with members in person. As a member of NAWA's Board of Directors, I'd like to share my admiration for the incredible work this organization has done to support and promote women artists since its founding in 1889. Keynote speaker, acclaimed artist Joyce Kozloff, shared her decades-long career creating public, commissioned installations made from ceramic tile and marble/glass mosaic. She is an originating figure of the Pattern and Decoration movement, and much of her work has been based on cartography. Jill Baratta (NAWA Executive Director), Christie Devereaux (NAWA President), and Susan Hammond (NAWA Vice President) welcomed attendees, thanked volunteers and spoke of the organization's mission and future. Afterward, Penny Dell, Anita Fina and I headed to The Plaza Hotel to meet with T'Alyne, artist member based in Colorado. It was an incredible day filled with joy, camaraderie and passion for the arts! |
May 5, 2022
Myrna (left) Visits with Margarita (a.k.a. Mourka) Meyendorff
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High Falls, NY:
Yesterday, I had the opportunity to catch up with Margarita (a.k.a. Mourka) Meyendorff, author, actress, dancer and singer. Mourka's books Flipping the Bird and DP: Displaced Person were excerpted in Sanctuary. Mourka was also a 2021 book giveaway sponsor. Mourka filled me in on her new projects. Stay tuned for an essay to be published in Sanctuary later this year. We had a delicious lunch and a wonderful conversation about life, love and art. A note about our community: We continually boast that we are more than a publication. We are a community of women seeking to better our lives, share our passions and energy, and promote those whose work helps to better our communities. The personal relationships formed by so many is truly inspiring. We value our entire community. Here's to women across the globe who help to make our world a better place! |
April 14, 2022
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Hudson, NY:
Last night, I accompanied Joanna Frang, director of the Trolley Barn Gallery at The Art Effect, on a trip to Hudson, NY for an author talk and book signing event hosted by Hudson Hall, an arts organization located at the historic Hudson Opera House. President Emerita of the Brooklyn Academy of Music (BAM), Karen Brooks Hopkins, read from her new book, BAM...And Then It Hit Me. Afterward, she spoke with Maureen Sager, founder and former executive director of the Upstate Alliance for the Creative Economy (ACE), about her 36-year journey as president of BAM, her remarkable fundraising efforts, and the many pitfalls she navigated along the way as former leader of the multi-arts center in Brooklyn, NY. Karen spoke about her 36-year tenure as much more than a job - literally a crusade. "I made it my business to bring stability to the center," she shared. Karen discussed her creative fundraising efforts and the importance of seeking endowments for long-term stability. She also spoke about building organic relationships and finding ways to "get people through the door." She shared the importance of meeting others from their perspectives to make everyone feel welcome. "At the end of the day, if you don't have programs that work for the community, [you're not going to be successful]." The evening concluded with a reception and book signing. |
March 24, 2022
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
Yesterday, I attended the Women's Professional Network's "Celebration of International Women's Day and Women's History Month" held at the Poughkeepsie Grand Hotel. Keynote speaker Laurie DeJong, CEO of LDJ Productions, spoke about resilience, perseverance and finding your purpose as a business leader. She discussed the challenges we all faced during the height of the COVID pandemic and how businesses had to get creative and rethink - on the fly - how to move forward during an incredibly difficult time. She also talked at length about her nonprofit, Paper Fig Foundation, an organization with a mission to use fashion and fine arts as an engine to empower and support sustainable community development projects in Uganda. Senator Sue Serino also spoke to attendees and talked about collaboration and the pride she has for women who help make our communities better places to live. WPN's founder, Lea Bishop, spoke about how far women have come since celebrated suffragettes paved the way for women's rights. The WPN provides educational events, opportunities for networking, and generally supports women business leaders and their pursuits. |
March 11, 2022
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
On Friday, March 11, I stopped by the well-attended, opening reception of "High Contrast," an international juried exhibition at the Trolley Barn Gallery on Main Street in Poughkeepsie, NY. This exhibition is the fifth in a series of youth-led international juried exhibitions. Professional guest juror who worked closely with students is Alexis Lowry, Curator of Dia Art Foundation in Beacon, New York. The 28 artworks present sharp visual contrasts or draw attention to radical differences in the world. Mediums include painting, illustration, photography, printmaking, sculpture, textiles, mixed media, graphic art and installation. The exhibition is open to the public through April 14th. Find more information at Trolley Barn Gallery at The Art Effect. |
February 14, 2022
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Troy, NY:
On a very cold and blustery Valentine's Day, I visited the Emma Willard School to interview the current Head of School, Jenny Rao. I was awed by the beautiful architecture and nurturing environment. The school's history is such a great fit for our celebration of Women's History Month coming up in March. Its halls have seen many female trailblazers over the course of more than 200 years, including Elizabeth Cady Stanton. In 1814, Emma Willard ran a school for young women in Middlebury, VT. In 1821, she opened the Troy Female Seminary (later renamed Emma Willard School in 1895), the very first higher education institution for women in the U.S. Today, it operates as both a private day school and boarding school in Troy, NY. I don't want to give too much away, but readers can look forward to this featured interview and much more in a couple of weeks! |
January 21, 2022
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The mission of the The Art Effect at the Trolley Barn Gallery
is to train youth as leaders who catalyze the community through the arts and re-energize downtown Poughkeepsi, NY. |
Last night, I attended the opening reception for "Double Take: International Juried Exhibition" at the Trolley Barn Gallery in Poughkeepsie, NY.
Juror Rachel Seligman, Curator at The Tang Teaching Museum, along with Joanna Frang, director of the Trolley Barn Gallery, and Exhibitions Assistant Gigi Grace, guided The Art Effect’s Youth Curatorial Team in a series of educational workshops. The result: 42 artworks from 732 international submissions on display at Trolley Barn Gallery. Youth juror Olivia Barker-Duncan says, "It was interesting to see where the artists would go with this theme...all of these different perspectives of 'Double Take.'" Youth juror Caroline McCormack, who plans to pursue a career as an illustrator, explained that the students were responsible for choosing the work along with the professional juror. “I had a great time doing this. We got to pick which pieces we wanted to see in the show.” The exhibition will be on view through February 24, 2022. |
January 8, 2022
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Barrett Art Center's exhibition Body Beautiful III: Celebrating the Art of the Figure drew a terrific turnout yesterday. The selected works were diverse in both application and theme.
I spoke with several participating artists as well as Penny Dell, curator, who explained that this was the third Body Beautiful exhibition (previously held in 2018 and 2019). Penny shared, "You have this wonderful house with its beautiful and distinct architecture being the canvas for artists' expression of the body....well, it's special. And you're seeing such a variety - bodies in motion, abstract work...so many different explorations." This exhibition is unique in that it coincides with open studio drawing on the second floor. (FIND SCHEDULE) In addition to the upcoming studio sessions, the following events are planned: Saturday, January 15th: 3:00 p.m. Zoom ("NEW(D) TECHNOLOGY: Drawing the Figure in the Age of Electronics" with artist Roz Dimon) Sunday, January 16th: 3:00 to 4:00 p.m. (Vassar Art Historian Professor Eve D'Ambra guides a walk through the exhibition.) Saturday, January 22nd: 2:00 to 4:00 p.m. ("Turn Your Drawing into Print Monotypes" with Penny Dell) Closing Party from 2:00 to 5:00 p.m. January 30th. |
December 3, 2021
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Dutchess County, NY (Rhinebeck and Poughkeepsie):
I was out and about yesterday for a fabulous lunch and to view a terrific, local exhibition.
First stop: Gigi Trattoria for a conversation with Laura Pensiero, chef/owner of Gigi Trattoria in Rhinebeck, NY and Sanctuary's "Laura's Corner Table" columnist. We discussed upcoming installments of the column (stay tuned...), and I also enjoyed the best GF sandwich around - Gigi's gluten free salmon BLT. My husband enjoyed the grilled chicken with sliced apples, Gruyère, arugula, and honey mustard on pressed focaccia. Next, we were off to Barrett Art Center to view the 2021 Member Holiday Show. I chatted with Joanna Frang, executive director, and ran into a few artist friends. Live music and a tasty spread added to the welcoming atmosphere. In the Crenson Gallery (found upstairs), visitors will find additional work by artists who have donated work to the center. This show will be open to the public through December 18. Please consider supporting local artists this holiday season. Find more information at Barrett Art Center. |
November 14, 2021
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New York, New York:
I met with my editors in NYC to make plans for 2022! Lots of new and exciting things in store for our community! We'll fill everyone in this coming January. Of course, food was involved! Delicious brunch at Jacques Brasserie on 85th. Oh...and did I mention laughter? Love my team! Thank you Carol, Karen and Sandra for your incredible insights, creativity and professionalism. Shout-out to the rest of the team as well! Here we go SANCTUARY...here we go...CLAP CLAP! |
November 6, 2021
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Poughkeepsie, NY
I visited Barrett Art Center's “New Directions 2021: 37th Annual National Contemporary Art Exhibition” today and was struck by the diverse works and varied approaches. The slideshow includes some of my favorites. Juror Vivian Li, The Lupe Murchison Curator of Contemporary Art, Dallas Museum of Art, points out, “Like with the empathy and care that these artists imbued in the creation of their work, the exhibition invites visitors to envision possibilities of discovery and renewal.” Miya Hannan’s solo show is running concurrently in the Crenson Gallery. “Over, time, I developed my own philosophical views about death in order to deal with this difficult topic.” Miya Hannan (Partial Artist Statement) Both exhibitions are open to the public through Saturday, November 13th. Hours: Thurs: 4 p.m. – 8 p.m. ~ Fri: 2 p.m. – 6 p.m. ~ Sat: 12 p.m. – 4 p.m. or by appointment. More HERE. |
October 2021
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New Orleans, LA (NOLA)
INSPIRATIONAL TRAVEL: Traveling to New Orleans? Gregory's Shrimp Boil Cabaret is a fabulous experience through Airbnb! Gregory is a knowledgeable chef who serves up traditional, delicious NOLA dishes while educating his guests on local foods and cooking culture. Shout-out also goes out to Sarina and Stanley who entertained guests with a wonderful cabaret performance. This was an intimate and authentic experience. I also recommend the women-owned Mahogany Jazz Hall which opened in the summer of 2021. We saw several fabulous jazz musicians there, including the incredible Ronell Johnson on trombone! |
August 24, 2021
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For hours, visit Barrett Art Center.
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Poughkeepsie, NY
Although I missed the opening, I had the opportunity to meet with Joanna Frang, executive director at Barrett Art Center, and view the center's current international juried exhibition, "Luscious. Tasty. Delicious." It's always a pleasure to see diverse, contemporary works in such a charming, historical space. I asked Joanna what struck her most about the chosen pieces. "That many were not overtly about food. Many of these pieces make you think about these three words again...they exude another meaning or translation." Juror Holly E. Hughes, Godin-Spaulding Senior Curator for the Collection Albright-Knox Art Gallery writes, "Now, more than ever, art has taken a nucleic role in our everyday lives as a place for reprieve and expression. A true feast for the eyes, these fifty artists working across media blur the boundaries between the familiar and the unconventional, resulting in a selection of works that reveal a narrative steeped in personal experience and the importance of self-care rather than gratified spending." Exhibition is open to viewers through September 11, 2021. |
July 24, 2021
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Pawling, NY
It's always great to catch up with a former Sanctuary featured artist. We featured three-time Blues Music Awards Nominee Alexis P Suter in September 2019. I've thoroughly enjoyed the Alexis P Suter Band perform several times in the past, but they blew it out of the park on Saturday, July 24th at Daryl's House in Pawling, NY. Alexis (lead vocals), Vicki Bell (vocals), Ray Grappone (drums), Michael Louis (lead guitarist) and their accompanying musicians on keyboards, trumpet and bass guitar wowed the crowd to several standing ovations. Kudos to Alexis and company! You don't want to miss out on an opportunity to see them in person. Find APSB upcoming schedule. |
July 21, 2021
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Poughkeepsie, NY
I had the opportunity to attend Senator Sue Serino's women's networking event on Wednesday, July 21st at Locust Grove in Poughkeepsie. Approximately 150 women were in attendance and many more virtually. Senator Serino has been devoted to supporting women entrepreneurs and community leaders since she took office in 2015. The event's theme, "Rebuilding in the Wake of a Challenge," was highlighted as three women took to the podium to share their personal stories. Sabrina Cruz, the 2021 Woman of Distinction, talked about struggling with severe depression and finding herself again. She urged the audience to "Wake Up, Dress Up and Own Your Day." Kelly Formoso talked about her experience working for the American Red Cross and how everyone in the room can help those in need - every small act of kindness helps. Satara Brown, founder of the nonprofit Rebuilding Our Children and Community, talked about how at-risk children benefit from the summer camps and after-school programs her organization provides. It was great to see some familiar faces and talk to others about how they came through the worst part of the pandemic. It was also comforting to feel a sense of normalcy again! |
July 2, 2021
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Petersburgh, NY and North Adams, MA (Mass MoCA)
Kicking off July 4th Weekend! Yesterday, my husband and I had the opportunity to visit Pennie Brantley and Bob Morgan, both past featured artists in Sanctuary, at their beautiful home and studios in Petersburgh, NY. The perfect hosts gave us a special tour and made us a delicious early dinner. It was great spending time with them and viewing more of their incredible pieces in person. Next, all four of us headed to Mass MoCA to celebrate Ransome's "Millennium" project as part of "An Unpredictable Time & Place," a Lesley University MFA Thesis Exhibition. Congratulations goes out to Ransome, who is also a past featured artist in Sanctuary. It is wonderful to develop friendships with the artists we include in our publication. Wishing all three of them continued success. And to our U.S. readers: Have a wonderful July 4th Weekend! |
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June 23, 2021
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Poughkeepsie, NY
I had the opportunity to visit the "Up Close and Personal" exhibition at The Art Effect's Trolley Barn Gallery on Main Street in Poughkeepsie, NY. As soon as I arrived, I noticed the newly installed center walls. What a difference this made to the overall ambience of the space. The gallery now has the feel of a more contemporary gallery, but the juxtaposed brick walls of the original, historical building give it an edgy vibe. Juror Ana Conlan, Neil C. Trager Director of the Samuel Dorsky Museum of Art, states, "Many of the artworks represent the forms of human intimacy, from acutely revealing portraiture and studies of our internal landscapes, to tableaus of family life. In a year characterized by social distance and instability, these works tap into what many of us need right now: friendship, family, human care, and connection." I've posted some pieces that caught my eye in the slideshow. Exhibition available for viewing through July 1. |
May 17, 2021
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Sneak Peek:
Upcoming in our July issue: A conversation about Suprina Kenney's and Lisa Winika's collaborative project "We Are the Forest." Currently exhibited at Queen City 15 through May 30th, this stunning and provocative installation has the viewer thinking about the negative effects of trash on the environment, while inviting guests in to study all of its freaky glory and unexpected beauty. Lisa explained that in order for a collaboration to be truly successful, the artists involved must completely trust one another. A site-specific performance video and additional photographs and comments from the artists will be included in July. A huge thank you to both Suprina and Lisa for sharing their process and journey with me. |
May 11, 2021
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Poughkeepsie, NY
One of my favorite things to do is to visit artists at their studios! Two artists whose work has been shared in Sanctuary - Basha Ruth Nelson and Penny Dell - have studios at the Poughkeepsie Underwear Factory. There's nothing like seeing work in progress and an artist in her unique, creative space. And what a joy it is to be out and about once again. Thank you Basha and Penny for a fun afternoon. It's time for everyone to venture out and enjoy the arts scene. |
May 8, 2021
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Poughkeepsie, NY
On Saturday, May 8th, I attended the opening of two phenomenal exhibitions at Barrett Art Center: "Fun House: Art of the Surreal, Fantastic, + Bizarre," a national juried exhibition with a wide variety of mediums presented, and Pennie Brantley's solo exhibition titled "Past the Past." These exhibitions are not to be missed and are two of the best I've seen in quite a while. Juror for "Fun House," Silvia Karman Cubiñá, executive director & chief curator at Bass Museum of Art in Miami, says, "It is not possible to view these works of art separate from the context of a year impacted by a global pandemic, financial devastation and racial unrest and how the works perhaps manifest fear, uncertainties, grief, loneliness, joy, and desire in a year like no other." The works in this exhibition are thought-provoking and run the gamut from fantastical to disquieting to downright bizarre. Pennie Brantley's solo exhibition titled "Past the Past" is a stunning example of her attention to detail, contrast and bold compositions. Viewers will have no doubt why this painter is critically acclaimed. In her artist statement, Pennie explains, "Ambiguities and allusions of depth offer paths to individual and varied interpretations, as do all the common experiences we have as humans, no matter where or when we happen to be born. Though the images are sometimes stark, perhaps a little ominous, as can be life’s experiences, they are always bathed with a redeeming light that symbolizes hope and ultimate triumph." Fun House is available for public viewing through June 20th and "Past the Past" through June 5th. Find timed ticket registration. |
March 19, 2021
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Poughkeepsie, NY
On Friday, March 19, I visited Barrett Art Center in Poughkeepsie, NY to view their current national juried exhibition "Represent: New Portraiture." The works are stunning and diverse. Upstairs in the Crenson Gallery, guests can find the current juried Members' Exhibition. Both exhibitions run through April 17, 2021. Timed ticket registration available. Virtual Artist Talks, hosted by Joanna Frang, will take place on March 25th at 7 p.m. Guest artists are: Charles Eady, Nayana LaFond and Gunnar Norquist. For more information: barrettartcenter.org connect@barrettartcenter.org |
January 16, 2021
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Poughkeepsie, NY
On Saturday, January 16th, I attended the opening reception for Barrett Art Center's "Photowork 2021: 34th Annual National Juried Photography Exhibition." The photographs were extremely diverse in both theme and approach. In addition to Photowork 2021, visitors will find a solo exhibition by artist Nene Aïssatou Diallo, titled "belonging to a memory," upstairs in the Crenson Gallery. Juror Audrey Sands, the Norton Family Assistant Curator of Photography, Phoenix Museum of Art and the Center for Creative Photography, writes, "Against the background of an unfathomable year, photography has proven to offer solace, perspective, insight, hope, truth. The work in this exhibition addresses a number of urgent themes - patriotism, body politics, the safety and visibility of public space, and the possibility of hope." Joanna Frang, Barrett Art Center's executive director, comments, "In a time when we are accustomed to scrolling through hundreds of images a day on our devices, the artworks in Photowork 2021 invite us to slow down and look closely." That's certainly what I did. Don't miss this exhibition which runs through February 21. There are also three virtual artists talks planned (Jan 28, Feb 4 and Feb. 11). Find more from Barrett Art Center. |
October 10, 2020
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Short Video Clip of "New Directions 2020" National Juried Exhibition
Ransome poses with his piece titled "Who Should Own Black Art?"
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Poughkeepsie, NY
Another venture out to the Barrett Art Center for the opening of "New Directions 2020" and "The View From Here," a solo show by artist Ransome. New Directions 2020 displays extremely diverse pieces, everything from mixed media and sculpture, to textile, collage and video. Juror Nic Brierre Aziz states, "Despite the world's ills and incessant attempts to reduce the natural levels of empathy and curiosity that exist within us all, creatives have always found ways to maintain this purity and express it in ways that can lead us all down a more collectively harmonious path." Barrett's Annual Solo Series 2020: Ashley James, Associate Curator of Contemporary Art at The Solomon R. Guggenheim Museum in New York, has selected four solo artists from a pool of over 200 artist applicants from across the U.S. I met with artist Ransome whose paintings and collage work are displayed on the second floor in his incredible solo show, "The View From Here." Partial artist statement from website: "My work focuses on images that center on my African-American lineage; traced to sharecroppers of the American South who migrated to northern cities along the east coast. The pictorial narratives are personal, yet the symbols interplay with larger social, racial, ancestral, economic and political histories that speak to current issues. " Ransome will be featured in Sanctuary's popular special issue "Celebrating the Men in Our Lives" in June 2021. Stay tuned... Both exhibitions can be viewed at Barrett Art Center on Noxon St. in Poughkeepsie, NY through November 14, 2020. Find timed ticket registration HERE. |
August 26, 2020
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Albany, NY
What a treat to meet up with artists Pennie Brantley and Robert Morgan at the Albany Center Gallery (ACG) in downtown Albany! This was my first visit to this gallery space. Pennie Brantley was Sanctuary's featured artist in March of this year, and her husband, watercolorist Robert Morgan, will be featured in our June Father's Day issue ("Celebrating the Men in Our Lives") in 2021. Robert, whose work has been exhibited across the US and internationally, had four pieces chosen for VISIONS, ACG's current juried exhibition which explores the depths of the human subconscious and what we experience while dreaming. Partial Artist Statement: "My latest work is a series of large, densely hued paintings or fragments that are cut out and glued together to create various visual planes." This exhibition closes on August 28th, but readers can find out more from Robert Morgan's website. |
August 7, 2020
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Back in the Saddle:
I had the privilege to finally visit an art exhibition in person, and it was a treat! I met with Joanna Frang, executive director of the Barrett Art Center, to view the current national juried exhibition "PAINT: Medium as Power in a Time of Crisis." The works were inspirational. I was particularly drawn to Erin Kendrick's selected pieces "Simone" and "US #1 and US #2." Partial juror's statement: "During times of crisis, there is typically a yearning to regain control or some sense of power. While jurying the submissions, I kept in mind ideas of power, with relation to periods of crisis. I was also intentional about taking into account the possibility for numerous reflections of and reactions to our current social climate." ~ Juana Williams This exhibition is open until August 15. Visitors are asked to register for FREE online for an hour viewing block. Find information HERE. Walk-ins will be accommodated if the center is not at capacity. Please wear a mask! Virtual exhibitions, artist talks and projects to do at home are continually available from Barrett@Home. |
June 18, 2020
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Virtual Artist Talk:
On June 18th, I spoke with Yehudit Feinstein Mentesh to talk about her piece "Untitled" which was chosen for Barrett Art Center's MARGINS: An International Contemporary Arts Exhibition. "All of my memories as well as my self-discovery of the different parts of myself come through in my work. I am so many things – a wife, a mother, a Jew, an immigrant, an artist." Complete interview with Yehudit. Partial Artist Statement: My art reflects the mixed emotions that arise from being an immigrant. The ambiguity between my will to stay close to my origins, and at the same time embrace my new surroundings is prominent in my work. In my search for a "home,"a place to belong to, I am walking through my inner worlds, unfolding layer after layer. |
April 21, 2020
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Virtual Artist Talk:
As you know, this is a space where I share my visits with artists, authors, humanitarians and business leaders or my travels to exhibitions, open mics, and live music events. Typically, I attend at least one of Barrett Art Center’s “Artist Talks” associated with their national/international juried exhibitions. Since EARTH WORKS: Art in Ecological Context is now a virtual exhibition and artist talks have been cancelled, I called Loren Eiferman, whose work was chosen for the exhibition, and spoke with her about current and past projects, the healing power of nature and the life of an artist during the current pandemic. "Mother Nature is fierce and powerful. It doesn’t matter how terrible the disaster…she is reborn," she shares. Loren Eiferman is a New York-based artist whose wood sculptures have been exhibited extensively throughout the Tri-State Region - from galleries in New York City to galleries, alternative art spaces and museum exhibits in the Hudson Valley Region of NY and Connecticut. |
April 17, 2020
Joanna Frang
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At Home:
For the last several weeks, we've all been adjusting to the "new normal" - the uncomfortable social distancing, total isolation from our elderly loved ones, wearing masks while in public, anxiety over what the future holds, etc. The art world has responded by providing virtual exhibitions and programs so that the public can continue to benefit from the inspiration that the arts instill in all of us. Myrna Haskell asked Joanna Frang, executive director of Barrett Art Center, about Barrett's new Barrett@Home virtual space. "We wanted to use our web and social media platforms to provide virtual experiences and opportunities so ‘virtual visitors’ could continue to engage with the art and the ideas that shaped the works," Joanna shares. "That's what we do, and that's what we think is important - connecting people through and to art and ideas." And the public response? "We've heard from artists...and from online ‘visitors’ that they're really appreciating it. People who are isolated in their apartments and homes are looking for ways to connect online - I know I am." |
March 10, 2020
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
I attended the Women's Professional Network's "Celebration of International Women's Day" on March 10 at the Grand Hotel in Poughkeepsie, NY. This is an annual event for WPN, and Lea Bishop, founder, reminded attendees about the women who, throughout the course of history, paved the way for the rest of us. It was a night filled with laughter, tasty food and camaraderie. Amy Jin, co-creator of Straighten Your Crown, was the keynote speaker who discussed the topic "Dare to Be Fearless." Music was performed by Bridget Kelly, a songwriter and recording artist, who was accompanied by Kyle Carlson. International Women's Day (IWD) has been observed since the early 1900's - a time of great expansion and turbulence in the industrialized world that saw booming population growth and the rise of radical ideologies. Decades later, in 1975, it was celebrated for the first time by the United Nations. (InternationalWomensDay.com) |
March 7, 2020
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
I attended Barrett Art Center's "Artist Talks" associated with their national juried exhibition "Photoworks Beyond 20/20." Juror Shoair Mavlian, director of Photoworks UK, says, "This exhibition brings together a range of styles and techniques showcasing different approaches to contemporary photographic practice." She states that she chose works that focused on urban landscape, the natural environment, people and politics. Photographer Cheng Gong shared the processes and inspiration behind his series "The Ten Precepts of Buddhism." Ellen Jacob described her "Immigrants" series, including the poignant, back stories of her subjects, and Jill Inbar discussed her "In the Magical Kingdom" series which chronicles her relationship with her family, portraying the rhythm of the mundane, and the theme of geometry and light throughout her work. The talks were well attended and artists had the chance to mingle with guests afterward while enjoying a wine and cheese reception. Don't miss out on these intimate and educational talks. Find more events HERE. |
March 1, 2020
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
I attended Barrett Arts Center's SPRINGRAISER again this year. And what a fabulous event it was! This is Barrett Art Center's biggest fundraiser of the year and an event not to be missed. It was held at Locust Grove Estate. The afternoon included a wine reception with delicious au d'oeuvres, auctions, music by Nick Edwards Trio and great conversation. Honorees this year: Jose Gomez (Member Award), Dr. Lisa R. Kaul (Springraiser Honoree) and Arts Mid-Hudson/Linda Marston-Ried, executive director (Community Partner Award). This is always a feel-good event that brings artists, art enthusiasts and community leaders in one room to celebrate how the arts transform communities and lift the human spirit. |
February 27, 2020
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
I attended a Women's Leadership Alliance (WLA) event at Paula's Public House. The WLA is an arm of the DCRCOC which brings women in business together to support each other, network and make new alliances/friendships. I ran into Joanna Frang, executive director of the Barrett Art Center (Sanctuary's Art Sponsor) and Lorraine Cucci, RN (a section sponsor for Sanctuary). It was a great evening, and Paula put a tasty spread out for attendees. Sanctuary is a member of the DCRCOC and several other networking groups in the Hudson Valley Region of NY and beyond. |
February 8, 2020
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Marlboro, NY:
At Sanctuary, we like to keep in touch with our featured artists and the fabulous women we interview. On February 8, I attended another incredible performance by the Alexis P Suter Band at The Falcon in Marlboro, NY. Alexis has been nominated three times for the prestigious Blues Music Awards, presented by The Blues Foundation: Best Soul/Blues Female Vocalist (2013), Koko Taylor Award - Best Traditional Female (2015), and Contemporary Blues Female Artist (2017). Alexis's feature appeared in our September 2019 issue. |
January 22, 2020
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
I'm photographed here with Sanctuary's social media intern, Dana Jones, owner of Accessadoor. We attended a Dutchess Regional Chamber of Commerce event at Shadows on the Hudson. It was a great night learning about other members' plans for the New Year and New Decade! Always great to catch up in person with Dana! |
January 9, 2020
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Day in Manhattan:
After lunch with Carol and Nikki, I met up with Sandra Bertrand, Sanctuary's "Travel Journal" columnist, and we headed to the National Association of Women Artists Cold II reception at the organization's headquarters gallery on 39th Street. The reception was well-attended, and guests enjoyed wine and snacks while browsing the beautiful pieces representing "cold." Several artists spoke about their work and awards were distributed. I also met Biana Kovic, NAWA's new executive director. Susan Hammond, former ED, retired in December. It was a wonderful evening celebrating artists and their work. |
January 9, 2020
Nikki Feirt Atkins (L), Carol Lippert Gray (C) & Myrna
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HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Manhattan: So...I was off to the races with several meetings and events to attend early in January. Had a productive and enjoyable day in Manhattan on Thursday, January 9th...starting with a fabulous lunch date! I'm photographed here with Nikki Feirt Atkins, M.D. (left), former dancer and founder & producing artistic director of American Dance Machine of the 21st Century (ADM21 is a nonprofit which aims to preserve, present, and educate the public about notable works in musical theater choreography), and Carol Lippert Gray (center), seasoned writer, editor and a Sanctuary contributor...who is also on the board of ADM21. Nikki is the featured interview in Sanctuary's March issue. March is Women's History Month and the issue will be jam-packed with quality content empowering and celebrating women! |
December 19, 2019
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
After a stop at WomensWork.Art, I headed over to Barrett Art Center for their Holiday Gathering of staff, community members, volunteers, artists and neighbors....also several students from their Barrett Kids program. It was a full house - delicious food and treats and lots of smiles all around. The center's warm and welcoming atmosphere included Dave on guitar. The Barrett Art Center is an integral part of the Poughkeepsie Art Scene. Their national juried shows are top-notch. Stop by in 2020 to see what they're up to. For more information visit the Barrett Art Center. |
December 19, 2020
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I stopped by WomensWork.Art on Thursday afternoon (12/19) to view their Holiday Market showcase of diverse artisans and artists. While there, I picked up several treasures. This emerging gallery in Poughkeepsie, NY promotes women artists under the radar.
The Holiday Market is open through Sunday, December 22nd. Don't miss out - beautiful jewelry pieces, ceramics, soaps, candles, signed prints, custom stationary, handmade slippers....and SO MUCH MORE! Do some last minute shopping and support a new gallery that supports women! Find out more from this FACEBOOK page. |
November 9, 2019
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
On Saturday, November 9, I attended the final "Artist Talks" and closing reception for the national juried show "New Directions 2019" at the Barrett Art Center in Poughkeepsie, NY. A diverse selection of painting, photography, sculpture, textile, video and works in hybrid mediums were chosen by artists from across the U.S. Juror Akili Tommasino, Associate Curator for Modern & Contemporary Art, Museum of Fine Arts Boston, explained, "The works in New Directions 2019 were selected from a national open call that netted over 700 submissions. They exhibit a variety of artistic techniques, ambitions and visions united in their contemporaneity." Three artists talked about their work and inspirations: Golda Disc Eigo (an artist from New York, NY who is not pictured in the slideshow) explained that her art has been influenced by the rhythm and chaos of New York City and that "this flow seeps into [her] collage work." Luanne Redeye's (an artist from Endicott, NY) newest work is deeply personal and represents family relationships and an exploration of native American communities. Luanne says, "Creating can be a guide toward healing." Natalie Birinyi (an artist from Brooklyn, NY) plays with perspective as she blends nature, technology and architecture into her pieces. Capturing ephemeral images and creating a permanent piece of art from them drives her vision. These artists talks are truly a window into the minds of creatives and a great opportunity to ask questions and meet the artists in person. Barrett Art Center holds two artists talks for each national juried exhibition, held on Saturdays from 3pm to 4pm. Check out their upcoming exhibitions. |
October 11, 2019
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
I visited award-winning artist Penny Dell at her studio in Poughkeepsie, NY today. What a wonderful experience talking about different print-making processes and viewing her personal space. I also learned more about the Poughkeepsie Underwear Factory which houses a cafe, artist studios, community space and affordable housing. Stay tuned for more about Penny in an early 2020 issue. |
October 5, 2019
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Rhinebeck, NY:
Yesterday, we had a fabulous time at the Sanctuary Annual Wellness Event! The venue was co-hosted by Marisa Moeller, Ph.D., owner of The Alternative Therapists Partnership. It was a pleasure working with Marisa to put this event together. Her office space in Rhinebeck, NY provided a cozy, relaxing and intimate environment! Guests had a lot of fun putting together Vision Boards with her while they thought about setting goals. Sending out a huge thank you to Emily A. Bobson DC, chiropractor, our lunch break speaker, who discussed how stress affects the brain and, in turn, our physical, mental and emotional health. Thanks also to the following facilitators who provided interactive workshops: Ellie Savoy, CHHC, (better digestion, decreasing clutter in your life and living energetically), Lorraine Cucci, RN (using hand reflexology to decrease pain/stress), Michelle Bourque, Certified Life & Weight Coach (how to find balance in your life), and Christine Vogg, Arbonne Independent Consultant & Area Manager (skin care and how we can live healthy both inside & out). Thank you also to Tegan and Christina, our student volunteers who helped us throughout the day...and to John and Kirk, who wore several hats during the day! We appreciate all of you! |
September 21, 2019
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New York City:
Throughout 2019, the National Association of Women Artists (NAWA) has been celebrating 130 years of empowering, supporting and promoting women in the arts. Their 130th Annual Members' Exhibition is currently showing at One Art Space, 23 Warren Street in New York City (Tribeca). I visited the exhibition and ran into several of the artists who were showing their work, including Sandra Bertrand (NAWA's public relations co-coordinator who also happens to be Sanctuary's "Travel Journal" columnist), Jill Baratta (president of NAWA), Hilda Demsky, and Natalia Kropf. If you are in Manhattan, do not miss this diverse show that includes a variety of styles in painting, sculpture, photography and mixed media. Artist Talks (several of the award winners will be present): Tuesday, September 24, 5:00pm to 7:00pm Opening Reception and Award Presentation: Thursday, September 26, 6:00pm to 9:00pm |
September 10, 2019
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Wappingers Falls, NY:
Lea Bishop, founder of the Women's Professional Network (WPN), asked me to speak at the organization's 4th Anniversary Birthday Bash about the importance of celebrating milestones in business. Lea launched this networking group four years ago to support women in business, and since then the organization has grown tremendously. The event was held at Farmers and Chefs in Poughkeepsie, NY and was attended by over 60 women business leaders. The energy in the room was tangible. Lea talked about her career path, the inspiration behind founding WPN and plans for the future. Awards were presented to members who have demonstrated continued dedication to the organization. To learn more: WPN Website WPN Facebook Page |
August 17, 2019
DylanKalina Staniszewski stands beside her piece chosen in the
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
I attended the Gender in the Balance "Artists' Talks" at Barrett Art Center today. It was a full house. Artist DylanKalina Staniszewski, an emerging artist from New York, discussed her work. Her images evoke discomfort as they portray a destruction of space and form. The figures are active throughout the compositions. Her works are meant to be examined - perhaps from different angles - but at least to be revisited...as a first impression might not stick. "I pursue topics that make me uncomfortable...those are the things we should be talking about the most anyway," she explains. Other speakers today: Professor Wham (Marist College, DCC) talked about sex, gender, gender balance and how public and personal perceptions of gender have changed over the centuries, immortalized in works of art. Hazel Johnstone (Vassar College) discussed portraiture and gender. Barrett Art Center will host a second set of Gender in the Balance "Artist Talks" on September 7th from 3 to 4pm. |
August 15, 2019
Lorraine Salmon (left) with Myrna at Gigi Trattoria in Rhinebeck, NY
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Rhinebeck, NY:
I met with a fabulous new author today! Her name is Lorraine Salmon, and her book is titled What's Better Than This? This romantic memoir spans a 14-month love affair that quickly escalates into a hilarious, middle-aged sexy frolic...then blooms as a pivotal and meaningful midlife romance before turning into a last-wishes-before-dying story. We had a delicious lunch at Gigi Trattoria while we discussed her book and why she wants others to learn from her experience and find joy in their own lasting and loving memories. Readers will find an interview with Lorraine and an excerpt from her book in our October issue. Stay tuned.... |
August 3, 2019
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
On August 3rd, I attended Barrett Art Center's much-anticipated Gender in the Balance national juried exhibition opening. Also opening was the Barrett Art Center's juried members' show in the Crenson Gallery. The opening was well-attended, and several artists spoke about their selected pieces. Joanna Frang, executive director, talked about the center's various educational programs and community partnerships that regularly bring in students, art enthusiasts and visitors to explore and discuss the works exhibited. Juror Judith K. Brodsky, founding director of The Brodsky Center (PAFA), says, "The choice of gender balance as a theme for this exhibition reflects contemporary concern with sexuality. These artists are providing insights that help us consider the issue thoughtfully." Don't miss these simultaneous exhibitions and the upcoming artist talks: Gender in the Balance: Through September 14, 2019 Juried Members' Show: Through September 14, 2019 (Crenson Gallery) Artist Talks: Saturday, August 17 - 3:00pm to 4:00pm Saturday, September 7 - 3:00pm to 4:00pm |
July 17, 2019
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
On July 17, I attended Senator Sue Serino's "Connecting Women in Our Community" event. This was an at-capacity, free event held at Locust Grove Estate in Poughkeepsie, NY. Senator Serino commented, "Maybe we need to look for a bigger venue for next time." The New York Senator (41st District) spoke of the importance of women in leadership roles and supporting women entrepreneurs and business leaders. Stacey Tompkins was announced as the "2019 Woman of Distinction." Stacey talked about her journey in the business world as president of Tompkins Excavating in Putnam Valley, NY. Kadiyah Lodge works in the nonprofit sector, and she talked about mentors, making connections with other women and the importance of women supporting each other. The keynote address was given by Rita Powers, owner of Rita Powers Management and Rita Powers Casting Group for HBO. She started her career in talent management and has since cast for feature and independent films, Broadway shows and nationals commercials, etc. Women business leaders had the opportunity to network at the end of the evening. |
July 12, 2019
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
On July 12, I attended a WomensWork.Art reception for their current, juried exhibition "Celebrating Color." The reception was well-attended, the space teeming with artists, business leaders, gallery directors and art enthusiasts from throughout the Hudson Valley. Works included paintings (of a variety of styles...traditional still life and landscape, abstract, postmodern, etc.), collage, and unusual, mixed media pieces - a kaleidoscope of gorgeous, vibrant color. Kudos to this new gallery which will be celebrating their ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY on August 2nd. See more about this event from our EVENTS page. "Celebrating Color" is exhibited through August 24th. Gallery hours 2-6pm (Fridays and Saturdays) or by appointment. |
July 8, 2019
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Hyde Park, NY:
On Monday, July 8, I had the opportunity to visit with Tarryl Gabel at her home studio in Hyde Park, NY. Tarryl is an award-winning painter who was raised on a cattle ranch on the Fort Berthold Indian Reservation in North Dakota. She has been living in the Hudson Valley Region of New York for thirty years. This is the first time I met Tarryl in person. She is a hard-working, dedicated artist with a love of nature and wildlife. I quickly realized that she is also a generous and kind spirit whose work encourages an emotional connection with her buyers and collectors. She works with oils - with fine detail and a keen eye for light/reflection. An interview with Tarryl as well as a fine arts highlight will be published in our August issue. Stay tuned for more about Tarryl... |
June 15, 2019
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
Today, I attended the 2019 Poughkeepsie Open Studios event. This is a free, self-guided tour of the arts through historic Poughkeepsie, NY. I spoke with artists at the Barrett Art Center and the Poughkeepsie Hive Food Hall. There are many other locations throughout the city. You can pick up a map and artist listings at the Barrett Art Center on Noxon Street in Poughkeepsie. I spoke with Emilie Houssart, who is a resident artist at the Barrett Art Center, working in Thomas Barrett Jr.'s 3rd floor studio. I also spoke with photographers Nikki Hung and Steven Steele Cawman who both had work on display at the Poughkeepsie Hive Food Hall. And I ran into astro traditional graffiti artist Nelson Prior on the way in. This event is still open to visitors on Sunday, June 16th from 1pm to 5pm. Don't miss the opportunity to speak with the dozens of artists participating in this popular, annual event which is now in its 5th year. |
June 9, 2019
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Ridgefield, CT:
On Sunday, June 9th, I attended a fundraiser for K.E.Y.S. Kids Empowered by Your Support. As we look forward to our August FOCUS ON YOUTH issue which features young women in the arts and emerging female community leaders, we wanted to share video of this nonprofit that provides music instruction to underserved, inner-city children and, with the support of the Jacqueline Ruth Weber Gift of Music Fund, also provides funding for guitar programs in Bridgeport, CT. Scott Weber, a featured artist from last year's "Celebrating the Men in Our Lives" issue, is founder of this fund. Performing in a duet (left): Jinandry Fulgencio, a K.E.Y.S. student who just graduated from high school. Performing a guitar solo (right): Victor Ramirez, a former K.E.Y.S. student. |
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June 7, 2019
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
On Friday, June 7, I attended Marlene Wiedenbaum's "The Eternal Landscape" exhibition at Cunneen Hackett Art Gallery in Poughkeepsie, NY. Marlene is an internationally recognized, award-winning pastel artist whose work will be featured in Sanctuary in July. I'm always thrilled to attend art exhibitions because there is nothing that compares to seeing the works in person. The attention to detail in Marlene's work is incredible...from a piece of aged lace casually draped over a table, to sunlight bouncing off the gentle waves of a freshwater creek, Marlene's attention to light, movement and texture is stunning. Art enthusiasts can view this exhibition throughout the month of June, Monday through Friday (9am to 5pm). Readers can look forward to reading more about Marlene in her feature next month. |
May 2019
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Southern Caribbean:
My husband and I went on an extended trip to the Southern Caribbean this month. It was a much needed respite. I love snapping photos of things I find interesting along the way - it could be something as simple as a photo of the water's surface appearing to be an impressionistic painting due to schools of colorful fish near the surface. Islands visited: Antigua, Bonaire, Curacao, St. Thomas, St. John, and Aruba. There's something about a beach vacation...lots of self-reflection and stopping to look at things you don't have time to investigate in the harried pace of daily life. The earth is such a marvelous place...and as I was lounging at some of the private beaches, I decided that an inspirational travel section would be a great addition to our publication. Stay tuned for more on that. Happy travels to everyone planning a vacation this summer. Send us your inspirational photos!! |
April 16, 2019
Sandra Bertrand
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A Day in New York City....
I spent a full day in Manhattan...first to visit with Sandra Bertrand, playwright, painter and art critic. Sandra is holding a painting that was recently hung in the NAWA gallery on 39th Street titled "The Last Wave." Readers can look for her artist feature in our May issue. Later that evening, I attended an AF women's empowerment event at the JCC in Harlem. Two short films were shown and then a panel discussion followed. "Preserving Beauty" (Diana Guerra, filmmaker from Peru) and "Parker & Angel" (Ty Whittington, filmmaker from CA) are short films from The Artists Forum Festival of the Moving Image: 2018. Susan Hammond was recognized for her leadership and support of women in the arts as Executive Director of NAWA (National Association of Women Artists). |
Film Event at the JCC
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April 15, 2019
Jean Newburg with "Monsieur Bleu"
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Woodstock, NY:
Out and About... I visited with the fabulous Jean Newburg in her Woodstock home. We talked about her journey as an artist and her decades-long commitment as founding CEO of Weston United, a nonprofit organization providing housing and services for homeless individuals with mental illness. Jean's sculptures will be shared in Sanctuary in our May issue where you will also find an interview. Jean has been experimenting with watercolor and creating pastel landscapes, and she continues to create sculptures in Manhattan. |
March 5, 2019
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
On Tuesday, March 5th, I attended a celebration of International Women's Day organized by the Women's Professional Network (WPN). The event was held at the Poughkeepsie Grand Hotel. Keynote speaker was Robyn Hatcher, communication expert and consultant. It is always a pleasure to be in a room filled with energetic women entrepreneurs...not to mention bumping into three of Sanctuary's awesome sponsors: Ellie Savoy, Dr. Marisa Moeller and Lorraine Cucci, RN. |
March 3, 2019
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
I attended the Springraiser for the Barrett Art Center at Locust Grove Estate in Poughkeepsie, NY. This event was sold out. Raffles, a silent auction, live music, lunch and recognitions of community leaders were part of the program. Five incredible artists had work on display and were included as part of a silent auction (Julia Whitney Barnes, Risa Boogie, Penny Dell, Kevin Frank, and Emilie Houssart), and there was an exclusive exhibition of New Deal artwork. Joanna Frang, executive director, was praised by Mayor Robert Rolison and Marc Molinaro, Dutchess County Executive, for the work she has done in partnering with organizations and businesses to promote the arts and improve the community. |
March 1, 2019
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
I attended an event which ringed in "Women's History Month" at the CIA (Culinary Institute of America) in Poughkeepsie, NY. A wine and hors d'oeuvres reception preceded a viewing of Joanna James's film A Fine Line: A woman's place is in the kitchen. A question and answer period followed. The film featured world-renowned chefs who talked about their individual journeys in the restaurant industry. "It is less likely for a woman to be hired as a Head Chef than a CEO." (Bloomberg News) |
January 31, 2019
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New York City:
On January 31, 2019, I attended the 130th Anniversary Commemorative Reception for the National Association of Women Artists (NAWA) in Manhattan at the NAWA Gallery on W. 39th Street. Susan Hammond, executive director, and other members of NAWA reenacted the exact day the organization was founded, dressed as the five founding members - Grace Fitz-Randolph, Anita C. Ashley, Adele Francis Bedell, Elizabeth C. Cheever and Edith Mitchill Prellwitz. The event was jam-packed with honorary members, past presidents, members of the press, art enthusiasts and other supporters. The reenactment skit was written by Sandra Bertrand, and champagne, cheese plates and petits fours were served. Susan talked about NAWA's beginning and what the organization continues to do to support women in the arts. A fabulous evening all around! My interview with Susan Hammond appeared in Sanctuary's December 2018 issue. |
November 11, 2018
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Rosendale, NY:
On November 11, I attended Lynne Friedman's reception for her "Color Filled Landscapes" exhibition at the Rosendale Cafe in Upstate New York. It was a beautiful day with many attendees - artists, nonprofit founders, writers, and many art enthusiasts. Lynne's work is stunning. Much of her new work began with a journey to Morocco and Spain. Lynne's work is part of many corporate and private collections, including McGraw Hill, IBM, Columbia Presbyterian Hospital, Metropolitan National Bank and others. She has received many artist residency grants to work in Spain, Costa Rica, Ireland, Southern France, New Mexico and elsewhere. Her work was chosen in 2013 for the "Art in Embassies Program." We featured Lynne in 2016. Learn more about Lynne HERE. Lynne has refreshed her website and has added her new work. Click button below. |
October 11, 2018
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New York City:
On October 11, I attended the Wonder Women in the Arts workshop at the Museum of the City of New York hosted by OPG (Organizational Performance Group). The topic at hand: Does gender matter in leadership roles in the arts? Even though women are leading 48% of art museums (up from 43% in 2015), a gender gap persists at the largest museums - only one of the nation's 13 largest museums is run by a woman. During the workshop questions were asked of the panel: Darsie Alexander, chief curator for the Jewish Museum in New York City, Kaywin Feldman, director of the Minneapolis Institute of Art and Pamela Franks, director of the Williams College Museum of Art in MA. There was also time for small-group table discussion and networking. Some thoughts of the day from these leaders: Darsie Alexander: "The gender definitions are more fluid today and have been recast. However, there is still a pay differential for support staff. We need people to be able to afford to step into our profession." Kaywin Feldman: "As a leader, you need to keep a focus on societal trends. Don't fill your days with just putting out the fires. You need to also focus on long-term goals, and this can be hard to do as a leader with so many responsibilities." Pamela Franks: "People are looking to seek female role models." |
August 6, 2018
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Staten Island, NY:
On August 6th, Nancy and I headed to Staten Island, NY with Dr. Marisa Moeller (one of our sponsors) to tape separate shows with Staten Island Community Television (CTV, channel 34). Myrna & Nancy's segment was all about Sanctuary and what we do. We talked about the inspiration behind launching Sanctuary, our content, our vision and our growing community. This was part of the "Books & Music Review" line-up. |
June 23, 2018
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New Paltz, NY:
On Saturday, June 23, I attended Ward Lamb's solo exhibition at Roost Studios in New Paltz, NY. It was an absolute pleasure to view his work - past and present. I became a fan of his work when I first met him in Kingston, NY in 2017. Ward is a very talented painter whose work exudes a passion for his subjects. I was particularly taken by his "Pattern and Desire" pieces which were previously exhibited in a solo show at the Leslie-Lohman Museum in Manhattan. The texture and the way light dances off the vibrant colors is stunning. These pieces are a must-see in person. Portraits of Ward's daughter, Nina Simone, Andy Warhol, Cher and Eminem are also among my favorites. Ward will be giving an "Artist Talk" at Roost Studios in New Paltz on July 13th from 7pm to 8pm. Ward is a featured artist in our June 2018 issue. Find his page HERE. |
April 1, 2018
Myrna (left) with Anne de Carbuccia at Westbeth Gallery
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New York City (Manhattan):
I had the opportunity to visit with Anne de Carbuccia at Westbeth Gallery in New York City to view some of the photographs of her ongoing project One Planet One Future. Anne's work is amazing, and her TimeShrine Foundation is providing educational classes for students from kindergarten through college. I talked with Anne about the inspiration behind the project, her global explorations and experiences and her future plans. Stay tuned for Anne's feature in the July issue of Sanctuary. |
March 9, 2018
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Poughkeepsie, NY:
On March 8, 2018, I attended an event hosted by the Women's Professional Network (WPN) in celebration of International Women's Day. Sue Serino, New York State Senator, and Dr. Liz Lasky were speakers at the event. Dozens of women entrepreneurs, nonprofit founders and business leaders were in attendance. It was a great night for networking and learning from other women. |
December 30, 2017
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Peace, Work and Reflection
I took this photo today while working on our January issue. The snow was falling outside my office window, so I took a break, snapped a photo, and decided to "smell the snowfall." Isn't it funny how you can "smell" the snow...just before it comes down (and afterward)...that crisp, clean smell in the air? Some folks find peace and relaxation listening to the rain as it splatters on the sidewalk, the rooftop, the roadway. I find peace watching the snow fall. So...thank you Mother Nature. I needed this respite - although short - to remind myself to not let work duties and deadlines stop me from appreciating the incredible grace and elegance nature offers just outside my window. |
November 28, 2017
Elisa Pritzker and Myrna in Elisa's Studio Gallery
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Studio Visit: Ulster County, NY
It is truly a pleasure to be able to meet our featured artists in person...to see them at work and in their space where their creativity and passion comes alive. Although we feature artists from across the U.S. and the globe, I do not take for granted the opportunity to visit these talented artists in person. Elisa is a phenomenal artist and the recipient of two U.S. Congressional Awards for achievements and service in the area of Community Arts and Culture. Stay tuned for her feature in our January 2018 issue! |
July 31, 2017
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Murano Island and Murano Glass Factory:
We visited Murano Island and viewed the Masters as they created decorative vases and sculptures. It takes fifteen years to train to be a Murano glassblower. In 1291, as a precaution against fires, the Doge of Venice ordered all Venetian glass makers to move their furnaces (fornaci) to Murano. This worked out well, as glass was becoming a coveted craft, and this kept the workshops isolated so others wouldn't steal the secrets of the trade. It didn't take long for Murano to become associated with the most coveted and high quality glass in the world. The photo of the horse shows one of the glassblowers gently tapping the glass for it to stand on its hind legs. The top-heavy aspect of the piece made this particular pose difficult and breathtaking to watch as it was created in mere minutes. |
July 13, 2017
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Amazing Architecture & Design:
Sharing some photographs of architecture that I found particularly stunning while traveling the Mediterranean. Photos are not necessarily those created by some of the most well-known artists...but are things that captivated me during my travels...some ancient...some Renaissance...some modern...some more recognizable than others. Splendid work by various artists and architects. |
June 20, 2017
After returning from a trip to the Mediterranean for my 25th wedding anniversary, I've decided to share some photos I took - specifically of artisans creating their unique crafts, architectural details that I found to be stunning, and marble statues created by some of the great artists of past centuries. I will be posting photos throughout the summer months for readers to enjoy.
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Island of Pag (Croatia): While in Pag, we visited the Pag Lace Gallery and observed artisans working on their intricate craft. After about 10 minutes of working on the tiniest petal, the artist (seen in one of the photographs to the left) needed to take a break. The work is extremely meticulous and the artist's hands and fingers get fatigued.
The History of Croatian Lace: The tradition of Lepoglava lace is several centuries old. The oldest testimony of lacemaking in Croatia is from the 15th century. Lacemaking blossomed in the 19th century and in the first half of 20th century. In 1937, Lepoglava lace won the gold medal in Paris. After 1945, during the ex-Yugoslav communist regime, the tradition almost died out as young women no longer found the enthusiasm to learn from their mothers and grandmothers. However, since 1997, lacemaking in Pag has been blossoming again with students learning the craft while in school. |
March 8, 2017
Writing Award: Sharing that my piece regarding cursive handwriting won a PMA (Parenting Media Association) Bronze Award in the “News Feature” category at the annual Design & Editorial Competition. The University of Missouri’s School of Journalism oversaw the judging. PMA publications are located throughout the United States, Canada and Australia. I want to thank Susan Weiss, publisher of the New York Parenting magazine group, for submitting my feature piece which was published in Manhattan Family in September 2017.
Photo Credit: New York Parenting
February 11, 2017
We've been asking our readers to share with us using #WheresYourSanctuary. Readers may post inspiration on social media using this hashtag if they'd like to address our community. We are also asking readers to let us know: What does the word Sanctuary mean to you? Where do you find your joy, peace, strength and fulfillment? In a place? In another person? Maybe in a hobby or a passion? In a quiet moment alone? We would love to know what feeds your soul and fuels your fire. Tell us on social media using #WheresYourSanctuary or send a note or short video to: seniorstaff@sanctuary-magazine.com
Nancy and I have asked ourselves the same question - Myrna's Musings and Nancy's Green Book are spaces where those in our community can learn something about us as well.
Nancy and I have asked ourselves the same question - Myrna's Musings and Nancy's Green Book are spaces where those in our community can learn something about us as well.
Dance Does it For Me (#WheresYourSanctuary)
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You may find it unusual that I don't necessarily find sanctuary while writing. I'm writing all of the time, and it does bring me fulfillment, but writing is cerebral. It's dance that feeds my entire being - mind, body and soul. For me, dance is an escape. It's wild abandon and stress relief.
Many of you may not realize that I've had a love of dance since I was a child. During my competitive gymnastics years, I practiced dance to improve my floor routines. I took classes in ballet and tap in elementary school. Later, I studied modern dance and jazz with the late Raymond Johnson of the New York City Ballet. Once my athletic career was over, I continued my involvement in the sport that I loved as a judge for 17 years. During those years, I was also a choreographer, helping level 10 and NCAA gymnasts with the dance elements in their routines. I also choreographed some group routines for events and shows. Favorite choreographer: The late Bob Fosse whose isolation work is just incredible. |
Myrna on Floor Exercise: 1982
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Time now to start the video to the left.
In my twenties, there was only one thing that fueled my fire on the weekends: Finding a club that had a dance floor. I danced into the wee hours of the morning. I don't think I'll ever give up dance. I dance for exercise, to relieve stress, to have fun, to let loose. And....this song by Joe Cocker...well, it's one that has me up and moving no matter where I am. Of course, there are many others (classic funk anyone?). Are you dancing yet? |
Redefining Motherhood
My daughter and I were lounging by the fire pit talking about college, friendships, what holds a marriage together and world peace. It suddenly hit me. The beautiful, young woman beside me –tanned from her summer job as a lifeguard and s’mores sandwich in hand – was all grown up. The funny thing? I realized I was listening differently. I genuinely craved her opinion on the big stuff. I also realized that I needed her, too. It was a revelation - an “aha moment.” I suppose I was also staring.
“Mom. What are you staring at?”
“I’m realizing you’re all grown up, and it’s amazing,” I answered.
“I mean, duh, Mom!”
There it was…the teenager still inhabiting part of her psyche. This was comforting, so I had to chuckle. I know she thinks I’m being over-sentimental and goofy, but someday she’ll understand and experience this with her own child.
I found that I suddenly wanted all the answers. Would this be the beginning of a new type of relationship between us? Would there ever be a day when she wouldn’t need my wisdom? My role as her mother was changing, but I am still her mother after all.
Your Changing Role as Mom
I talked with Deborah Gilboa, M.D., founder of AskDrG.com and author of Get the Behavior You want…Without Being the Parent you Hate (Demos Health, 2014). She says mothering changes with time. “Our kids all need parents no matter what their age.” She explains that the needs change and that most adult children are looking more for respect and love, not for rescue or unsolicited guidance.
Mothering is an ever-changing job, indeed, and one of the most difficult ones, too. “As our kids grow and gain more autonomy, we often still expect to be in control of their lives in a way that they do not expect or want,” she explains. “The change here is to a constantly evolving and ongoing conversation about our expectations and our child’s, so that each person is treated respectfully and with clear boundaries,” she continues.
When moms have kids in college, things might get particularly difficult because college students are used to setting their own rules and living independently. However, rules associated with respect for one another, no matter what a child’s age, should be ongoing.
Not long ago, I was visiting my parents during the weekend of my 30th high school reunion. I told my mother where I was going and approximately what time I’d be home so that she wouldn’t worry. At this point in my life, I understood a mom’s worry quite well.
Gilboa advises, “Curfews don’t make as much sense if your child spends part of her time on her own, but it is totally reasonable to ask for (and receive) a call to let you know when you can expect that child home.”
“Phasing ourselves out of a caretaking role is the biggest change as we parent older kids and young adults,” Gilboa adds.
There is a common goal amongst moms. Simply stated, that goal is to give our children wings and to set them free as individuals who can navigate the world solo as respected and useful members of society. However, you will still be Mom, forever and always; and this means you are there to lend an ear or a shoulder when needed, to be a perennial cheerleader and to regularly remind your child how much she is loved.
“Mom. What are you staring at?”
“I’m realizing you’re all grown up, and it’s amazing,” I answered.
“I mean, duh, Mom!”
There it was…the teenager still inhabiting part of her psyche. This was comforting, so I had to chuckle. I know she thinks I’m being over-sentimental and goofy, but someday she’ll understand and experience this with her own child.
I found that I suddenly wanted all the answers. Would this be the beginning of a new type of relationship between us? Would there ever be a day when she wouldn’t need my wisdom? My role as her mother was changing, but I am still her mother after all.
Your Changing Role as Mom
I talked with Deborah Gilboa, M.D., founder of AskDrG.com and author of Get the Behavior You want…Without Being the Parent you Hate (Demos Health, 2014). She says mothering changes with time. “Our kids all need parents no matter what their age.” She explains that the needs change and that most adult children are looking more for respect and love, not for rescue or unsolicited guidance.
Mothering is an ever-changing job, indeed, and one of the most difficult ones, too. “As our kids grow and gain more autonomy, we often still expect to be in control of their lives in a way that they do not expect or want,” she explains. “The change here is to a constantly evolving and ongoing conversation about our expectations and our child’s, so that each person is treated respectfully and with clear boundaries,” she continues.
When moms have kids in college, things might get particularly difficult because college students are used to setting their own rules and living independently. However, rules associated with respect for one another, no matter what a child’s age, should be ongoing.
Not long ago, I was visiting my parents during the weekend of my 30th high school reunion. I told my mother where I was going and approximately what time I’d be home so that she wouldn’t worry. At this point in my life, I understood a mom’s worry quite well.
Gilboa advises, “Curfews don’t make as much sense if your child spends part of her time on her own, but it is totally reasonable to ask for (and receive) a call to let you know when you can expect that child home.”
“Phasing ourselves out of a caretaking role is the biggest change as we parent older kids and young adults,” Gilboa adds.
There is a common goal amongst moms. Simply stated, that goal is to give our children wings and to set them free as individuals who can navigate the world solo as respected and useful members of society. However, you will still be Mom, forever and always; and this means you are there to lend an ear or a shoulder when needed, to be a perennial cheerleader and to regularly remind your child how much she is loved.
Sharing parenting experience...
The other day, I was racing through Stop & Shop to find medium brown root dye when I saw a frazzled mom with two toddlers (one screaming, drooling and sporting crimson cheeks) and a baby in tow. She had left her half-full cart and had dropped her car keys. I bent to hand them to her with a smile on my face. "I've been there. It's okay," I shared.
Well...I only had two toddlers at the time, and they are now 20 and 22, but Frazzled Mom didn't need to hear that.
It got me thinking about a piece I wrote about tantrums long ago, so I thought I'd share the lead-in to that piece with my SANCTUARY readers.
Many of us have been there. You’re in aisle twenty-two of the grocery store and your toddler decides it’s time to get out of the cart. When you don’t oblige, she starts to scream at decibels heard by all, including the man in the bread section who dons a hearing aid. At home you have a handle on your tot’s occasional tantrums. She gets smuggled to a safe environment (her playpen or a “child proofed” bedroom) and you continue on with your tasks as she tires herself out by either falling asleep or settling into a calm state. However, the public domain is another issue entirely. The tantrum invariably begins when your main course has just arrived at a restaurant or you’re fifth in line at the checkout counter. You would like to just ignore your child because you’ve developed the patience of Job since entering the world of parenthood, but those around you feel differently. They stare as though they’ve never seen a child have a tantrum.
Some tips...just in case...
Do:
• Dress your child in layers so she will be comfortable with the change in temperature from outdoors to indoors
• Avoid long lines and places where you will need to wait
• Bring along a bag of small toys that will interest your child if she starts to get fussy
• Avoid places and things that previously triggered a tantrum (i.e. the toy aisle)
• Give your child choices during your outing (i.e. “Would you like a toy to play with…or some raisins?”)
Don’t:
• Take a tired child into a crowded store and expect her to cooperate
• Bring a hungry child to any public place where food is inaccessible (bring healthy snacks along instead)
• Keep your toddler strapped to a cart or stroller for longer than she can handle it
• Enter a public place with a child who is showing signs of an imminent meltdown
Well...I only had two toddlers at the time, and they are now 20 and 22, but Frazzled Mom didn't need to hear that.
It got me thinking about a piece I wrote about tantrums long ago, so I thought I'd share the lead-in to that piece with my SANCTUARY readers.
Many of us have been there. You’re in aisle twenty-two of the grocery store and your toddler decides it’s time to get out of the cart. When you don’t oblige, she starts to scream at decibels heard by all, including the man in the bread section who dons a hearing aid. At home you have a handle on your tot’s occasional tantrums. She gets smuggled to a safe environment (her playpen or a “child proofed” bedroom) and you continue on with your tasks as she tires herself out by either falling asleep or settling into a calm state. However, the public domain is another issue entirely. The tantrum invariably begins when your main course has just arrived at a restaurant or you’re fifth in line at the checkout counter. You would like to just ignore your child because you’ve developed the patience of Job since entering the world of parenthood, but those around you feel differently. They stare as though they’ve never seen a child have a tantrum.
Some tips...just in case...
Do:
• Dress your child in layers so she will be comfortable with the change in temperature from outdoors to indoors
• Avoid long lines and places where you will need to wait
• Bring along a bag of small toys that will interest your child if she starts to get fussy
• Avoid places and things that previously triggered a tantrum (i.e. the toy aisle)
• Give your child choices during your outing (i.e. “Would you like a toy to play with…or some raisins?”)
Don’t:
• Take a tired child into a crowded store and expect her to cooperate
• Bring a hungry child to any public place where food is inaccessible (bring healthy snacks along instead)
• Keep your toddler strapped to a cart or stroller for longer than she can handle it
• Enter a public place with a child who is showing signs of an imminent meltdown
So You're Fifty...Now What?
With my fiftieth birthday fast approaching, I find that I’m holding onto my forties like a three-toed sloth gripping to a branch in the rainforest. Unlike the sloth, however, I seem to be losing my grip.
Shall I start lying about my age? I’ve never felt the need, but fifty sounds ancient. I think back to my teens and the agony of imagining myself at fifty - wrinkled, hunched, and bad tempered.
I find that my mind has not caught up to the calendar year. In some ways, I still feel as though I’m twenty-something - maybe not in the joints, but twenty-something nonetheless. I’ve seen high school buddies at events recently, and the adage is true. Time has literally stood still. Jack still throws down too many shots, and Jill still puckers her lips when she’s displeased with something you’ve said. The laughter is the same, but the amount of hair dye used earlier in the evening could probably fill a gas tank.
Don’t they say fifty is the new thirty? If fifty is really fabulous, why do some people freak out when they reach fifty?
I asked a friend the other day and she said, “Probably because it’s half over. I mean, you better be half done!”
Half done? Oh dear. I need at least two more decades to be half done, but it’s already the top of the second, and the view down the hill is daunting.
So, what does one do with the second half? Hmmm…the possibilities are endless. Should I splurge on a pair of Jimmy Choos, jump on the first plane to Barcelona or trade in my husband for a healthier model?
What’s a girl to do?
Your past is simply your past. Whether most memories are good or bad, moving on to the next stage of your life with a positive attitude and endless enthusiasm is the ticket to growth and happiness.
Christina Hibbert, Psy.D., a psychotherapist and author of This is How We Grow (Oracle Folio Books, 2013) counsels, “We must look back only to see what we have learned, then let it go and face forward. Practice self-forgiveness for your mistakes, and commit to making this part of your life the best yet. If there is one thing about this time of life, it’s that you have perspective and wisdom. Use that to help you live in the now and enjoy today.”
Reimagine your inner goddess by embracing who you are at this very moment. Don’t get caught up in visualizing your younger physique or dwelling on those pesky new aches that snuck up on you. Instead, do that certain something that you never had time to do while you were changing diapers or climbing the corporate ladder.
Hibbert explains, “Now is the time when you can enjoy life, unfettered by what others think or the responsibilities that felt so engulfing when you were younger.”
A healthy lifestyle is imperative in order to enjoy activities that make you feel vibrant and alive. Many folks ski or rock climb well into their seventies. Focus on how you feel on the inside, not how you look on the outside. What’s a small wrinkle when you can still run a half marathon?
“You can view the second half of life with a dark lens, or you can choose to seek the sun. Get out there and live your life. Get out there and let yourself shine!” urges Hibbert.
Indulge in activities that inspire you. Today is the first day of the rest of your life, and it certainly looks amazing.
