Women business leaders and entrepreneurs from various industries share their tips and advice in a "quick read format" on a variety topics.
Topic: Please Your Soul to Realize Your Potential
Tracy Secombe grew up in Port Lincoln in South Australia. She ran her first two businesses during her years at University. After seven years working in private practice as a physiotherapist, Tracy won the positions of Miss SA, Miss SA Fundraiser and Miss Australia 1997, which led to a full-time ambassador role traveling Australia to promote the work of The Spastic Centres of Australia. Later, Tracy completed a degree in journalism and started her third business venture “Child Share Care.”
From the time Tracy started her studies as a physiotherapist, she had a strong desire to empower people to prevent and treat their own injuries. As a result, Tracy founded Safe Work Practice and ran this business with her good friend and fellow physiotherapist, Mary Hill, until they sold it in February 2017.
In 2011/2012 Tracy became a “Thinking into Results” facilitator through the Proctor Gallagher Institute and began her coaching business, Potential Realized.
In 2016, Tracy’s beloved mother passed away, and she was reminded of the importance of making time for herself and her family. So, she launched Soul Pleaser, now her primary focus. Her mission is to help people know that they are enough without the need for approval from others, so that they can be who they are here to be and make the difference they are here to make. Her services include online programs, coaching, retreats, books and public speaking.
Find an exclusive excerpt from Tracy's People Pleaser to Soul Pleaser.
"Everyone will do something at some stage to please another person. It feels good to see someone else happy because this is who we are at our core – lovers. But our soul loves without conditions, and our fearful, needy self may expect something in return. If I please you, I expect you to be pleased with me. We are looking outside of us for something that is within us. The only place you can experience unconditional love one hundred percent of the time is from your soul. Once you connect with this love, it fills you up, it overflows and everyone around you receives it too." ~ Tracy Secombe
The fastest, easiest, and most enjoyable way to realize your potential is by pleasing your soul. Realizing your potential is “being who you would love to be.”
The way many of us attempt to do it is by pleasing other people, including people from our past who have taught us what they have learned and experienced – creating our habitual behaviors.
We are trying to prove our worth by striving for the next achievement, so we can receive the recognition or approval that we feel will validate us. This can keep us stuck – getting the same results and feeling like there must be more to life.
You have the potential to be, do and have anything you desire. Your potential is limitless. Your life’s purpose is to experience that potential, and if you feel unfulfilled, chances are your growth has stalled and you have been distracted off your soul’s path.
Tracy’s Smart Steps for Pleasing Your Soul to Realize Your Potential:
- Do get clear on what you want. Often, we have lost sight of what this is by being pulled in many directions by other people. Write down what is not working in your life the way you would like it to; then write down how you would like it to be. Do this for each area of your life – relationships (including your relationship with yourself), health, money, career/passion.
- Do make space for yourself. Create an inventory of all the things you do on a regular basis and ask yourself why you do them. Is there still a valid reason? Do you still enjoy these things? Are they still a priority for you? If not, delegate, modify, or stop altogether.
- Do connect with your soul daily. The inspiration that will guide you to the next step towards realizing your potential is regularly coming from your soul, but you usually can’t hear it because your thoughts are drowning out your soul’s whispers. Meditation is only one way to tune into your soul. Anything that holds your attention, relaxes you, and feels good will allow you to tune in to those divine impulses. Examples: body balance classes, drawing, etc.
- Do follow impulses. Your soul’s voice is often the first thought you have – before you talk yourself out of it. You will know it is your soul’s guidance when it feels exciting, calming or true. But the next thought will often be one that comes from fear, a “what if” idea that leads to all the things that could go wrong. Begin to choose from love instead of fear. Feel the fear, then do it anyway.
- Don’t be hard on yourself. Most of us have been influenced by the people around us all our lives. Learning to tune in and be guided by our soul takes practice. It is normal to fall back into old habits, a practiced way of thinking that can limit us. When you catch yourself worrying, overthinking, or being emotionally triggered by people and situations, be aware of these conditioned patterns. Instead, understand that you are exactly where you are meant to be on your path to realizing your potential.